My latest self debate has been trying to find my place between the "all natural" moms and the "medical" moms. You know both types, the "all natural" mom who is all about steering clear of any products that may have cancer causing chemicals or bad things in them, the ones that only give their children herbal remedies and listen to old wives tales, the mom that refuses to listen to a Dr.'s advice and goes out to get their child some more vitamins and remedies. It's the mom that believes that the experience of other mothers is much more informational and accurate than anyone that's been doing research or studying pediatrics for years. They are the ones that swear what you eat causes your baby's tummy aches and that something in your house smells funny or sounds strange or the room your baby is in is scaring them into their fits and that colic has an easy cure if you can just find out what is really wrong. These moms rely on faith and nature and nurture to get through motherhood and baby phases.
Then there's the "medical" moms. These moms are well versed in the What to Expect books, they research and study and read medical journals, they ask their nursing friends for advice and always trust their doctors. They listen to research and the changing knowledge and then new medical views and advice, they read magazines that give them tips based on facts and science. These moms are all about using things that are doctor or hospital recommended. They believe in changing everything that worked for them before because now it's the wrong thing and new research says to do it another way.
So here's the dilemma I face...
Where do I stand in between both these types of moms. I'm not 100% natural and holistic, but I'm not 100% into only what the doctors and nurses and research says either. I feel like I'm somewhere in the middle and it's working for me. I believe in giving my baby the best start in life. I believe that God gave us the ability to breastfeed so it's best for baby and for me. I believe that we shouldn't expose our newborns to harsh chemicals and that natural products are great for little ones such as California Baby versus Johnsons and Johnsons shampoos. I like that kind of stuff. I'm all for natural baby food that I will work hard to puree myself and not into formula or canned and processed baby foods. Having said all that, I have too many OB and Neonatal nurse friends to not listen to the logic of sound research and medicine. Lots of great advice and good knowledge comes from people who have studied and spent years learning about that research and what has been discovered by other nurses and doctors and lots of experience with moms and babies. So yes I do believe in the current research on topics like banning crib bumpers and back to sleep campaigns. I know that for years people put babies to bed on their tummies or sides, but I'd rather listen to my doctor and trust them in helping to reduce our risks for SIDS. I have struggles hearing family members talk about how they've always done things a certain way and it was a tried and true method and works. I do believe that old wives tales have some truth behind them or they wouldn't exist, but I don't rely on wives tales as how I should be a mom to my son. I really think doctors probably know what they are talking about, but that doesn't mean all doctors have ever been mothers and really truly understand what it means to love and nurture a newborn like an auntie or grandmother does.
So in closing I am somewhere in between and I think that's right where my son needs for me to be.
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